I wrongly assumed that the problems I saw as I grew up, the violence of my generation, the misogyny of my peers, would not be mirrored by the generations that followed.

I believed that younger men, that boys, brought up in the age of gender equality, #metoo and gay marriage would grow up to be a different kind of man. A more gentle man.

I wait too long and I can see that hasn’t happened. A huge amount of men and boys younger than me still celebrate and commit physical harm and verbal assault. 

Whether we like it or not, our society is divided into two halves. 90% of violence is committed by one of those sides. 

But, whenever this problem gets raised people point fingers at the 10% of women or say it’s human nature. 

There is a problem with the way that boys are being raised. They are, whether anyone cares to admit or not, growing up to be murderers.

In order to more robustly call out this issue wherever I saw it, I asked AI to find me some figures. 

Gender Disparities in Violent and Sexual Crimes (UK, US, Europe, 2019–2024)

United Kingdom (England & Wales)

Violent and Sexual Offences

• Men commit the vast majority of serious violent crimes in the UK.

• Women made up only about 18% of defendants prosecuted for “violence against the person” offences in 2021 – roughly 4 in 5 offenders were male.

• Over 92% of suspects convicted of homicide from 2021–2023 were male.

• 91% of people prosecuted for sexual offences (like rape) are men.

Domestic Abuse

• In the year ending March 2020, 91.8% of defendants in domestic abuse-related prosecutions were male.

• Between 2020–2022, 186 women were murdered by a male partner or ex-partner, compared to 30 men killed by a female partner.

• Over 86% of intimate-partner homicide victims were women, mostly killed by men.

Conclusion: UK data clearly shows men commit most physical harm—including rape, assault, and murder—overwhelmingly against both women and men.

Sources:

• CPS Violence Against Women and Girls Report 2021–22

• ONS Homicide in England and Wales 2023

• Women’s Aid Femicide Census

• ONS Domestic abuse in England and Wales overview

United States

Violent Crime Overall

• Men comprised 79% of all violent crime arrestees in 2019.

• 88% of murder and manslaughter arrestees were men.

• 97% of those arrested for rape were male.

• 76.5% of aggravated assault arrests were of men.

Domestic and Sexual Violence

• About 75% of known family violence offenders are male.

• Around 80–83% of intimate partner homicide offenders are male.

• 99% of convicted rapists are men.

Conclusion: Across nearly all categories of personal violent crime in the U.S., men are the perpetrators in the vast majority of cases—whether the victim is male or female.

Sources:

• FBI Crime in the United States 2019 – Arrests

• Bureau of Justice Statistics – Intimate Partner Violence Reports

• Department of Justice – Sexual Assault Perpetrators Report

Europe

Violence Across Europe

• In every EU country, at least 78% of perpetrators of physical or sexual assault are male.

• In one major analysis, 88.8% of violence against women was committed by men; 94.6% of violence against men was also committed by men.

• Around 90% of homicide suspects across Europe are male.

Sexual and Domestic Violence

• In most EU nations, 95–99% of people convicted of rape or sexual assault are male.

• Women can and do commit violence, but male perpetrators overwhelmingly dominate statistics.

Conclusion: European evidence strongly confirms that men are disproportionately responsible for acts of serious physical harm, whether targeting women or other men.

Sources:

• European Union Agency for Fundamental Rights (FRA) – Violence Against Women Survey

• WHO Global Study on Homicide

• Eurostat: Crime and Criminal Justice Statistics

Murder, Rape & Assault is almost exclusively committed by men. 

Across the UK, US, and Europe, men commit the vast majority of violent crimes—over 90% of murders, rapes, and serious assaults. Most victims of sexual and domestic violence are women, but even male victims are overwhelmingly harmed by other men.